Wedding cake in-the-middle-of-the-road.

This topic reminds me when I was planning my wedding. People always think of the actual wedding and forget the difficulty of planning it. Single women who are planning a wedding this is for you.

For my wedding, most of the things went smoothly despite the fact that my husband-to-be was staying in Cape Town and I was staying in Jo'burg. The wedding was going to take place in Durban. Reality is that when there's going to be a wedding something is bound to go wrong. A wedding is like any other event you have ever planned in your life. Things are not delivered on time, important people cannot be contacted, catering did not confirm the menu, no make-up artist and the list goes on.

For me, it was the person designing our rings. We had met him on a flight when we were coming back from Bangkok. He told us he was a jewelry designer and owns a shop in Pretoria. At the time, we had just gotten engaged. He had some diamond stones and a catalogue with him so he showed us his work of art. We made an appointment with him on what we wanted and got our rings designed. On my to-do list, I thought one more thing down to worry about.

Little did I know that a month before the wedding, we would still not have the rings. Less than a month before the wedding, we couldn't get hold of our designer and we didn't know how far he was with the rings. He was in Pretoria and at this time we were in Durban. The best man had to go to collect the rings in Pretoria. The rings only arrived two days before the wedding.

The question I want to pose to single women planning a wedding, would you still get married without the wedding cake? If the rings were not there on time, I would have still married my groom. Marriage is about love and not all about the beautiful decorations that are at the wedding.